rEvolution Family Therapy

You're not alone.

Marriage Counseling Builds Strength

Every couple has disagreements. For some, it's a lack of sex life or a pattern of continual bickering; for others, it's disagreements about finances or a habit of constant arguing. The coronavirus pandemic has added yet another possible stressor: more time spent together at home, which can heighten tensions or reveal hidden flaws in a relationship.


Therapy can be beneficial. It's not about pointing fingers — who did what or who is to blame, contrary to popular belief. Marriage counseling gives you tools to communicate and ask for what you need.

We are Here to Help

People frequently believe they are alone in their struggles. You put on a brave front for friends, family, and/or coworkers, but your private life is filled with struggle.  Problems with self-esteem, job, intimacy, sleeping, drugs/alcohol, eating, sex, or motivation may arise as a result. You can feel dissatisfied with the way your life is going in general or with specific aspects of yourself or your relationships.


Our therapists are trained to help you feel comfortable sharing and examining troublesome topics, as well as to inspire you to gain new insights, develop stress-management methods, build on your strengths, and make positive decisions.

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Marriage Counseling Areas of Expertise

Communication issues

Anger issues

Grieving the loss of a child

Depression and Anxiety

Financial Issues

Infidelity

Fast Appointments


We understand how valuable your time is, which is why we provide a variety of convenient options for receiving the care you require. Our intake team can assist you in making an in-office or telehealth appointment with a therapist.


Insurance Accepted


Most health insurance policies cover therapy services to some extent. Health insurance policies often cover services including therapist visits, group therapy, and emergency mental health treatment. We understand therapy can be expensive, let us help you explore your options.


Telehealth Available


We realize that the Covid 19 pandemic has increase depression and anxiety. We want you to feel safe and protected. In person services are our gold standard, but we offer telehealth appointments to patients that are apprehensive about in-person care.


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A better understanding of healthy boundaries

Deeper empathy and reduced conflict

Deepening honesty between partners


Growth as a couple and an individual



Anger management skills



Reducing stress and tension in your home


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Michael Frances Smith

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT, LMC

"Choosing a therapist can be a daunting task. Turning over the most sensitive parts of your life to a stranger is an amazing risk and a very brave thing to do. Studies show it is the quality of the relationship between therapist and client that determines the success of the outcome. When you feel close to your therapist, real change can occur.


I am an empath. That means I have the ability to feel the emotions of others. I work best with Highly Sensitive Persons or other empaths.

This work is important to me because I have been helped mightily by therapists in my own life. I have struggled and it is through this struggle that I came to this work."



-Michael Frances Smith


Michael Francis Smith

Nobody in this world gets away without struggle and I have had my share: I'm a gay man who was raised in a family and culture that is not accepting of homosexuality. My path has been at times harrowing and at other times exhilarating. I understand struggle. In my work, I have been privileged to witness countless transformations. We are resilient and we are capable of profound change.

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Family Therapy

Our family is our often our best support system. Sometimes, that system needs outside support to be healthy and whole. We offer family therapy to help you and your loved ones work through difficult situations.

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Individual Therapy and Counseling

Depression and anxiety can slowly creep into our lives, making us feel isolated and unable to cope. You are not alone, let us partner with you to give you strategies to get back to living your best life.

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Marriage or Couples Counseling

We help couples recognize areas of stress in their lives and relationships. We give you the tools to get your relationship back on track.

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  • Who can benefit from marriage counseling?

    Marriage counseling isn't simply for couples who are having serious challenges, disagreements, or troubles. Even the healthiest and happiest marriages need a little help from time to time to get through life. There are ups and downs when we are one half of a couple in a committed relationship. Although these problems and difficulties are perfectly normal and anticipated, they can appear to be exacerbated at times. Marriage counseling can help in this situation.


    Marriage counseling is a type of psychotherapy or counseling that aims to assist couples in recognizing and resolving any conflicts or obstacles that may arise in their relationship. Marriage counseling can help you settle new disputes as well as old ones that have been brewing for a long time.


    Marriage counseling can help any couple that has had a long history together. Couples may seek counseling to address marital concerns, acquire insight into their relationship's dynamics, enhance their emotional bonds, or come to an amicable conclusion to their relationship. Individuals who are planning to marry can receive premarital counseling.

  • What concerns do you treat?

    Some of the areas we treat are:

    • Addictions and Compulsions
    • Aggression and Violence
    • Aging and Geriatric Issues
    • Anxiety
    • Blended Family Issues
    • Breakup
    • Depression
    • LGBT (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender) Issues
    • Polyamory / Nonmonogamous Relationships
  • What types of therapy do you employ?

    Adlerian Psychology / Psychotherapy

    Adlerian therapy is a positive psychodynamic treatment based on the beliefs of Alfred Adler, a former collaborator of Sigmund Freud. It is a short-term, goal-oriented, and positive psychodynamic therapy. Many of Adler's studies centered on sentiments of inadequacy vs superiority, discouragement, and a sense of belonging in one's community and society at large. Feelings of inferiority, according to Adler, can lead to neurotic behavior, but they can also be used as motivation to achieve greater achievement in the correct circumstances. Adlerian treatment emphasizes on the growth of an individual's individuality while also acknowledging and appreciating humanity's interconnectedness.


    Motivational Enhancement Therapy (MET)

    The fundamental purpose of MET is to assist people in overcoming their ambivalence or resistance to changing their behavior. By boosting awareness of a problem, altering any self-defeating ideas about the situation, and building confidence in one's potential to change, MET focuses on increasing intrinsic motivation. Rather of recognizing a problem and advising a client what to do about it, the therapist encourages the client to create self-motivating statements that demonstrate a clear awareness of the situation and a commitment to change.


    Although MET can be used on its own, it is most commonly utilized in conjunction with other types of therapy. This type of therapy can also be used as a form of pretreatment to help a person become more motivated to begin a more particular type of therapy, such as cognitive behavioral therapy. MET can also be used in conjunction with another type of therapy to reaffirm a person's desire to change.


    Narrative Therapy

    Narrative Therapy is a type of therapy that involves self-reflective writing (or speaking) in order to objectively evaluate the problems or events in our lives (the narratives we tell ourselves).


    This  process allows us to see difficulties outside of ourselves, which encourages a level of self-awareness that is typically lacking when we are dealing with personal issues. David Epston and Michael White, New Zealand-based therapists, created the model in 1980 because they believed it was vital for people to see themselves as independent from their problems.


    Narrative therapy does not focus on blame, and it is used to make life's challenges more manageable. However, once an individual begins to unwind and become honest about the stories they've been telling themselves, it's a process that can hold them very accountable for the future. This method acknowledges the client as an expert, as well as a responsible and important part of how their future will unfold. As a result, narrative therapy is unconcerned with diagnoses, and the therapist's role is limited to guiding the individual through the healing process.


    Solution-Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT)

    De Shazer and Berg developed Solution-Focused Therapy at the Brief Family Therapy Center in Milwaukee in the late 1970s and early 1980s. It was born out of De Shazer and Berg's observation that clients would frequently speak about their problems and issues, seemingly oblivious to their own inner resources for overcoming these issues and focusing on the future.


    Solution-Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT), sometimes known as Solution-Focused Therapy (SFT), is a type of psychotherapy or counseling that focuses on finding solutions to problems. Rather of focusing on the problem, as more typical talking treatments do, this type of therapy focuses on finding solutions to problems or challenges, as well as recognizing a person's resources and abilities.


    SFBT instead focuses on the issue in the here and now, and how to go forward with a solution for it, rather than studying how the issue formed or interpretations of it, why it is there, and what it truly means for the person.

  • What are your office hours?

    Monday-Friday: 8:00am-7:00 pm

    Saturday and Sunday: By appointment only

  • How can I contact you?

    We understand the need for accessiblity when dealing with mental health issues. If your concern is non-emergent, please fill out our contact form and a member of our staff will be in contact soon. For current patients, if you have an immediate need, please call (805) 888-9254 someone will immediately be in touch. 


  • Do you schedule telehealth appointments?

    The offering of therapy and counseling services via video conferencing is known as teletherapy. Teletherapy is gradually gaining popularity among customers, particularly during the pandemic. We can now provide high-quality treatments to customers from the comfort of their own homes thanks to teletherapy. This may alleviate some of the apprehension people have about seeking help from a counselor, while also ensuring the safety of both the counselor and the patient. 


    We've also been able to improve access to care thanks to teletherapy. You won't have to worry about being stuck in traffic or driving great distances to obtain the help you need. Teletherapy is a good option if you live in a small town or can't find a nearby provider who is covered by your insurance. Though we are based in Ojai, CA, telehealth allows us to connect with patients in other areas.